Years ago, I wrote a very romantic post about considering your husband’s style idiom, with the recommendation that you take your fashion personality and add a nod to his.
This is something that’s been on my heart again recently. Married ladies, when you go out, do you look like a couple? Are people surprised when they find out the two of you belong together?
For me, that’s an uncomfortable feeling.
>Married ladies, when you go out, do you look like a couple? Are people surprised when they find out the two of you belong together?
We looked very “uncoupley” when we were first dating. Fast forward almost 3 years of me leaving L.A., me editing his closet (a LOT), both of us having less time but more money, him caring more about clothes because of his designer girlfriend and then wife, me caring less because SF is a much more chill town, him getting a better motorcycle (i refused to ride the old one because it was purple–hahaha), and now we often look like a couple because nine times out of ten, we’re both in leather jackets and jeans. We still look very different when we get all dressed up though.
“i refused to ride the old one because it was purple–hahaha”
That’s hilarious!!
“We still look very different when we get all dressed up though”
Well, I suppose he just wouldn’t look right in a kimono, would he? 😉
yeah, for some weird reason, men in kimono just don’t have the same…er, panache.
That’s so interesting to consider! Perhaps that’s why I’m so very casual. Dh has to dress up for work, but he is most comfortable in jeans and a T-shirt or sweatshirt. Yes, at 37, he still dresses like he did when he was 20. I’m not that casual, but that’s his most comfy home look. I do have a single friend who did think about that very seriously regarding her boyfriends. She loved to dress up, and if the guy didn’t, she wondered how that would look.
I’m not sure how important it is when you are first getting together, but I do think it’s good to grow together, always retaining your own individuality, of course.
It’s also interesting to consider if certain types of style personalities just find each other more often.
My hero sounds just like yours. I have one rule for him, which he still breaks from time to time, and that is not to wear a green shirt with green pants. He has a really hard time with that one, preferring all varieties of camouflage, even do-it-yourself. lol
Sadly, my Valentine and I will always be a bit mismatched. He swears he’ll never work at a place where he can’t wear jeans and a t-shirt, and one of my prime motivations for working outside the home is so I can dress up! When he puts on his one and only suit he looks supremely uncomfortable. When I wear jeans and a sweatshirt I feel like a slob. But living in the super-casual Northwest, his idiom is more prevelant.
However, I recently bought two new pair of jeans that actually fit, so I have reintroduced denim to my wardrobe. And my sweetie gave me a sappy card, a big box of gourmet chocolates, and hooked up a new reading lamp on my side of the bed. That’s love!
We’re a bit mismatched when we’re more casual–he’d be happy in jeans and a ten-year-old flannel shirt for the rest of his life, whereas I hate ever looking sloppy. Since the first time I saw him (we met online initially) I’ve wanted to find him some decent casual clothes, which he now has and is happy to wear when going out. And he dresses up very well and likes looking good in public.
I think there is a theme here …
Maybe most guys fit into 2 style categories: casual and preppy.
All of us have casual guys. *?*?*
My husband works outdoors for part of his job plus we have no car and he spends a lot of time out there commuting and he bicycles. He prides himself on enduring the weather and will often wear shorts in the winter to work. When we first met he talked about snow camping and I thought, well, I hope this isn’t meant to be personal. He noted that I would not shed my down outerwear until it hit 69 degrees. And I hate camping of any sort. Why do I want to do housework outdoors? Reminds me of that crazy public broadcasting series where they volunteer to go back in time and boil their laundry. egads.
So to start with, we don’t often look like we’re in the same climate zone. I own a *lot* of coats.
A coat for every temperature fluctuation. And then he is very tech-y in his clothing. It looks great on him. I can’t imagine dressing like this, despite the fact that it would be weather-friendly for me. I am very low tech. He shows me his latest snow pants with bells and whistles. I try to appreciate them. I like clever ideas. I show him the coat I just bought. He stares at it. Does he know what it is? No, he guesses wrong a few times. Camel hair, I tell him. His eyes glaze over, nods politely, leaves the room. I stroke the coat. I seem to stuck in the fifties and his miraculous dream would be to go into space. He likes science fiction and I like those English cozy mysteries.
And yet, because you asked the question, I find myself trying to imagine being part of a couple with a dashing man who dressed like I do. I really wouldn’t like it.
But I bet you somehow still look like you go together. =D Because you like each other.