Feb 142018

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Do you have enough clothes? Or, like me, do you have too many of some things and not enough of others? After thinking about this for these many years, first blogging and later taking Personal Stylist training with Carla Mathis (author of The Triumph of Individual Style), I am getting more strategic; consequently, life is becoming more peaceful.

HOWEVER, it is now midway through February and I have not shopped at all for that one thing on my list. February is bra month. And, since today we got hit with another six or so inches of snow, I need to decide how I am going to accomplish this.

What I have done is to identify my current favorite bra I own. It is by aerie (at American Eagle Outfitters), in a cotton blend which, sadly, I am not seeing on their website.

The good news is there are good sales! AEO, for example, is running 40% off bras, making them for the most part under $20 each. Also good news: Alot of bras are available through Amazon, which is especially good if you know exactly what you need and have Amazon prime. (Consider, if you can afford it, donating any undergarments  bought online that don’t work for you, rather than returning. How lovely for those in need to be able to have NEW!)

If that is not your cup of tea, here are a couple other ideas:

  • NORDSTROM (or The Rack) is a good place to get fitted and to buy, especially if you need a small band size and larger cup size.
  • Larger size and smaller budget? Consider Walmart.
  • On the other end of the fit spectrum, I have had luck at Target.

How many bras do you need? 

Realistically, at a minimum and assuming laundry every week, two nude (close to your actual skin tone) bras can get you by. It would be even nicer to have a third, to wear when the two are being washed. This does not account for workout wear.

Do you have to wash your bra every time you wear it?

No. That is, not here in the Great Northwest. In summer it could be nice to have that option.  It makes sense to me to let them rest a day in between wearings.

I found a great (pink, floral, black, other) bra in my size, should I buy it?

Maybe. Colors (and textures, like lace) are fun, but they are always more limiting. If you change your shirt midday, do you want to have to change your bra as well?

Can I put my bra in the dryer? 

Please don’t. It will wear out so much faster! I just wash mine in the washing machine with the rest of the laundry, and then hang them to dry.  Save your money for something a little bit more fun!

A good bra is priority.  The other day a friend was lamenting that the things she spends the most on don’t even show.

Can you relate?

Sep 052017

Going into September this year, as usual, it’s nearly 100°. During the day. At night, it’s dipping down below 60. That time of year when it’s summer during the day, winter at night. Not really winter, but ykwim. The time of year when people say “dress in layers” and I nod, while staring blankly and wishing it were that easy.

Anyway, since the days of summer are getting shorter and fewer, my summer wardrobe can definitely become minimal. I only plan to save the two best of every wardrobe piece for next year: two shorts, two skirts, two dresses, and so on. Some pieces, only one. Anything I put on these days that feels like a compromise in my best look goes into the donation bag.

In addition to purging those items I don’t plan to store, I will be shopping for those things I need to complete my fall wardrobe. Actually, first I need to take inventory, do some try-ons, maybe some alterations.

It is getting easier. And more rewarding. Discovering how to express my visual identity and essential aesthetic in my appearance is a journey of self-acceptance. And grace.

Aug 012017

Two wardrobe items characterize BTS shopping more than any others:

  1. Athletic shoes
  2. Jeans

In the first case, can I just say that 90% of the ladies I meet at the gym are wearing (#ad)Asics?

In the case of the second, is there anything more complicated? (Ok, it is actually our bodies that are complicated …)

This short video I found on YouTube is pretty helpful. If you have more specific questions about jean style, I am happy to try to answer them in the comments or by email.

Two more things about finding your best look in jeans:

  1. You know how they always say, “wear flares to balance your hips”? I want to say, “well, sometimes” and to add, “wear flares (if you want) to balance your shoulders (and/or bust)”. It all depends on the relative length of your legs.
  2. (#ad)Eshakti makes custom jeans for the price of off-the-shelf! My sister has done it and they are SO cute!

Jul 102017

I am finally getting sunglasses. This little post from the archives tells the history of me and my prescription sunglasses, what history there is, and even includes a picture!

Before I get to the try-on pictures, allow me to just share a little bit about my philosophy on glasses. I get that glasses are probably second only to hair in expressing personality, but they are also really expensive and I have to buy my own; therefore, I prefer a look with more staying power. Having multiple fun pairs of glasses, one for every outfit, would be great but at $200 to $500 a pair that’s not happening! I was able to use FSA dollars with Warby Parker. Edited to add: to save $, I had my sunglasses built single vision. They are mostly for driving/walking around anyway. If my life included alot of reading outdoors, I may have tried to work out a way to get progressives …

(Full disclosure: links to Warby Parker are affiliate links and if you make a purchase through them, they will pay me a small commission. Thank you so much! Home Try-On program)

What is lovely about this is that, even tho I am ordering online, I was able to try on the frames AND they offer returns (30 day) AND they will reimburse (up to $ limit) if I have to have them adjusted when I get them.

After getting family input, I went with the first pair. The fourth were my second choice. But I’m only getting one. Which are your faves?

Now, on to the pics:

Jun 272017

Are you starting to wonder whether a personal stylist could help you?  If so, you are not alone; there is a massive movement toward popularizing the use of styling services.

(OTOH,  I have just about given up using the term “stylist” because 95% of the people I talk to interpret that as Doing Hair. LOL)

Here is what is not immediately obvious about stylists (or style services) and their philosophies:

  1. Some want to do as much as possible for you and/or with you (shopping, packing, sorting, etc.). They act as a kind of a servant, in the best possible way.
  2. Others, often gifted artists, want to share their vision. Functionally more of a guru or an authority, they can tell you exactly what to wear and what to buy.
  3. Still others are motivated to help you connect with your own artistic vision. Working with them is like seeing a counselor, less a quick fix and more a journey of self-discovery.

While many stylists will try to market themselves as multiple of the above types, I think we are all fundamentally most aligned with one approach.   You can easily see how a misalignment between a stylist’s philosophy and  your reasons for hiring them could produce alot of frustration! Ack!  I can also easily see how I have frustrated some clients 🙁

Some quick thoughts (#thinkingoutloud) on how to align your goals and a stylist’s philosophy:

  1. If your goal is an updated and appropriate wardrobe and you don’t want to spend your time shopping, hire a servant-type stylist. If your budget is less, consider a shopping subscription service.
  2. If you just want someone to tell you what to do, book an analysis with a guru-type stylist. Try to get a personal shopping outing so you can learn how to use their vision and guidelines.
  3. If your goal is a signature style, or if you are an artist, or possibly if you have body image issues; you will want a stylist who takes the counselor approach. Expect to constribute to the styling process.

Furthermore, you can gain alot by working with more than one stylist in the course of your life. After all, stylists have different skill sets and human beings are always changing.

Leave a comment if you would like to start a conversation about working with me.
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Jun 202017

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We all felt the excitement when Rose and Jack embraced on the deck of the Titanic. We formed a hatred for her abusive fiancé, and we wept when there was not enough room on the raft for Jack. Storyline aside, the aesthetics of the Titanic were amazing. There was so much visual appeal found on the ship and the people were beautiful. Rose was the embodiment of beauty with her porcelain skin, piercing eyes, and long, curly hair. The attire women wore on the Titanic accented their femininity and beauty. If you are longing to own Titanic style dresses to enhance your feminine figure peruse the following sites, and keep in mind that accessories enhance an outfit.

Amazon is a great site to use when looking to purchase a Titanic style dress. Amazon includes a large array of items for purchase and this includes Titanic style dresses. Furthermore, due to the large amount of stock Amazon often offers items for a decent price. So, finding a Titanic style dress on Amazon could save you money.

Etsy sells Titanic style dresses as well! There is also a variety of dresses available to peruse. However, Etsy purchases a Titanic style dress at Etsy can be costly. The price of a few Titanic style dresses was in the thousands. Lower priced Titanic style dresses are on Etsy but are less intricate and decorative than more expensive items. Etsy also includes Titanic style dress patterns for individuals wanting to create a Titanic style dress. Patterns typically range between $65-70.

Wardrobe Shop contains a selection of Titanic style dresses as well. Prices on Wardrobe Shop typically are between $100-250. Furthermore, Wardrobe Shop includes vintage themed accessories to accent a Titanic style dress.

Lastly, EBay is a likely source to locate a Titanic style dress for purchase. Prices will probably have a wide range on EBay. Utilizing EBay as a shopping source to find a Titanic style dress is exciting because it is likely that dresses worn on the Titanic could be available for auction.

Listed above are three viable shopping sources for finding a Titanic style dress. However, you are not limited to any of the three. The internet contains multiple web sites that may have your ideal dress in stock. During your dress search, be mindful of the delivery date if you are planning on wearing the Titanic style dress to a formal event.

May 252017

When I go to get my haircut, I use a book online service offered by my salon. I love it! I can poke around and see what options are available and then select what works best for me. Meanwhile, I have been finding the scheduling of my own client appointments can be a burdensome process of telephone tag or emailing back-and-forth. Hopefully, all that is about to change.

Now, friends, you can search my schedule and book your own appointment.

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For the time-being, I am using Acuity’s free scheduler; if it works well, I can upgrade and add more features. Let me know what you think!

Mar 142017

I am not affiliated with Betabrand in any way; I haven’t even bought anything from them. This post comes from Betabrand to accompany their capsule wardrobe graphic which is philosophically compatible with my approach to wardrobe building. At least today 😉

Have you ever thought of building your own capsule wardrobe? I’ve come across this guide from Betabrand and it’s super helpful! When it comes to building a capsule wardrobe, the whole idea is quality over quantity. With just 27 staple pieces and a few accessories, you can have 100 outfits to fit any occasion. Check out this guide, and when it’s time to get your capsule wardrobe started, check out the selection of multi-functional pants to get your capsule wardrobe started. And be sure to take a look into the rest of their collections. Every item they sell is designed and funded by their customers, which is a really fun change of pace from the old-school way of fashion design. Everything on their site has a dual purpose, and comfort is a HUGE purpose! Take a look at the five-step graphic for building a capsule wardrobe and let me know what you think!

Mar 072017

Last year, in an effort to streamline my ongoing wardrobe development process, I built a month-by-month shopping schedule. My assignment for March? Spring Wardrobe.

That sounds huge, doesn’t it? But I don’t have to start from scratch: I have spring stuff I am pulling out in my Winter/Spring switchover (while it is currently snowing out). To facilitate the process, I plan to use my Updated Capsule Worksheet, which you are also welcome to download and use.

What I mean by spring wardrobe is the basics of covering my nakedness. By keeping the pieces within a single proportion template (not just within a color palette), they can be mixed. Adding in the optional accessories bundles creates head-to-toe infrastructure.

This is my plan. I confess I am much better at creating the plan than completing it. Let me know if you are joining me.

Mar 022017

If I only get one thing done in my wardrobe this month, this will be it: put away the winter stuff and pull out spring. Am I the only one who starts craving green clothes this time of year? Even though I am not seeing alot of green outside –  yet! –  spring is on its way.  It’s inevitable! 😎

Today I am wearing my long sleeve cashmere turtleneck for the last time this season. After this, I will wash it and let it dry, then pack it away for the season.  Or maybe not. This year, I invite you to join me in adding a step to the process, not even a step really, just a question:

Does this garment fit within my signature style color space?

If it doesn’t, this is the least painful time to make that decision! We have months to find a replacement for the item before risking nakedness, months of not having to store the thing only to have it potentially ruined by moths or mildew, months of letting it be enjoyed by someone for whom it is better suited. 🙂

Want help defining your signature style color space? I do that!