Sep 142016

You want me to show you outfit pictures?

You want outfit pictures?

Here’s what’s new:

  1. This site is going to be a personal blog.
  2. I will be rolling out a new business site (soon, I hope).
  3. is for sale! Comment or email if you are interested.
  4. That’s all for now!


Feb 292016

Style essence: the “character” of the look.

Some examples of commonly-used essence terms are Classic, Romantic, Natural, and so on. Which style essences resonate with you? There are many style systems out there; my opinion is that they work great, if you find the right one for you as an individual. My training, through Carla Mathis (author of The Triumph of Individual Style: A Guide to Dressing Your Body, Your Beauty, Your Self) and The Style Core, focused on building a look “from scratch”; my work revolves around helping women discover the elements of their Signature Style; my brain is constantly trying to systematize everything.

One well-known style essence system is that of Personal Style Counselors’ John Kitchener, popularized by Andrea Pflaumer in her book Shopping for the Real You: Ten Essential Steps to a Better Wardrobe for Every Woman – Fashionistas, Fashion-phobes and the Over Fifty. Kitchener likens the seven essences he uses to circus animals, with Classic in the middle as ringmaster, keeping the animals somewhat controlled.

Takeaway: the degree of Classic present in your face, body, personality, and/or lifestyle informs the appropriate amount of refinement for your Signature Style.

Btw, I am going to try to start posting little tips like this more regularly, but not promising anything. If you don’t want to miss one, they can be emailed to you. Enter your email in the subscription box in the sidebar.

Dec 222015


  1. Being ENFJ, I am seriously disconnected from my own preferences. While it may seem counterintuitive, it is actually easier for me to help you to access your own aesthetic preferences than it is to identify my own. And that is what I do. 🙂
  2. Not only that, it is much easier to see the patterns in someone else then in yourself. It’s probably a riff on the old “forest for the trees” idea.
  3. Most people have the good sense to, when they understand what will work for them, just go out and buy it! I struggle with that.
  4. Although I look kind of medium, I have at least as many fit issues as anybody. In fact, I’m not sure I have had a client whose proportions were as challenging as mine.
  5. And the biggie: after I help you discover the elements of your signature style, you will have the tools to look like your best self. And you should like your look better than you like the look of my best self.

Sometimes I don’t think I look like what a Stylist is “supposed” to look like. But, more and more, I look like myself.

Oct 262015

It happens all the time: one stylist says anyone can wear neon; another says no one should. Or, from the world of nutrition, one doctor says brown rice is best, another white rice is better, some say either, and others neither. So here are common sense strategies you can use to sort through conflicting expert advice and decide for yourself what to do.

  1. What has been your experience? For example, I don’t need a nutrition expert to tell me not to eat cornbread when I have a physical reaction to it like I did recently.
  2. What does your intuition suggest? Your aesthetic  instincts are a powerful tool. If you have always liked boot cut pants, or whatever else, chances are there is a real reason.
  3. What did our ancestors do? In nutrition, this is the basis for the Paleo movement; in fashion, looks typically go classic because of good design.

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Using any of these strategies is likely to return better, quicker, and more positive results than alternatives like more research or asking all your friends. And there is a fourth, bonus strategy:

  • What does the Bible say? You may, of course, insert an alternate sacred text here. When in doubt, try to remember to use this one. Because experts are often proved wrong, or right, when it’s just too late.
Oct 222015

The hero made an awesome chili the other day, and I just got a craving for cornbread. Since learning this summer about my sister having cancer, I have been trying to actually eat according to my own standards. I am now, as I call it, “off cookies”. Cornbread is pretty far from my typical diet of meat, vegetables, and fat. (But oh-so-yummy with good butter!)

When I went looking online for a recipe, I didn’t have much hope that I would even have the ingredients if I found one. But this one was adaptable. 

What I did:

  • 1 1/2 cups coarsely ground yellow cornmeal
  • 3/4 teaspoon sea salt
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1 medium egg and 1 tiny egg, straight out of the fridge
  • 4 tablespoons salted butter, room temperature
  • 1 1/2 cups plain (homemade, goat milk) yogurt, straight out of the fridge
  • 1/4 cup coconut flour
  • 1/4 cup dextrose

Preheat oven to 400° (convection bake). Butter a pie pan. Combine all ingredients in the Vitamix; pour into pie pan. Bake for around 20 minutes.

While the recipe turned out beautifully, I have to admit to myself that it was obviously not a healthy food for me to eat. I was almost instantly jittery, my face flushed, and I did not have access to the vocabulary I wanted! 🙁

If you want to see more pictures of what I eat, that is pretty much the content of my Instagram.

Oct 192015

By Satinder Haer (Guest blogger via Zillow)

A lavish dressing room can make getting ready in the morning a whole new experience. But who has the space or money for a whole room dedicated to getting ready?

Luckily, you can create a dressing room without buying a bigger house or breaking the bank. Closets often have untapped real estate you can transform into a minidressing room.With a little creativity and organization, you can create a do-it-yourself pampering spot that makes you feel like royalty every morning—right in your own closet.

If you’re craving a little extravagance in your morning routine, use these tips to design your own minidressing room.

Make Space
Vanities are the foundation piece of a traditional dressing room,so you’ll need to carve out space for a vanity or cheaper alternative, such as a desk or dresser. If your home came with walk-in closets and you have free space, you might not have to make additional room. If not, look at your closet and assess:
• What can I get rid of? Free space is often consumed by items you hold on to, but don’t need.
• Should all of these items be in my closet? Consider moving clothing that doesn’t need to be on hangers to a freestanding wardrobe or dresser. Or, box up seasonal clothes and move them to the attic.
• What size desk can I fit in here? Take measurements if it’s going to be a tight spot.

Once you’ve created enough space, find a bedroom vanity, desk or dresser that with counter-top space for storing your jewelry and makeup including drawers for storage.


Photos by The White Buffalo Styling Company via Zillow

Design Your Space
After you’ve acquired the main piece for your dressing room, think about your design. Whether you want the space to have an eclectic theme or a contemporary vibe, you can buy supplemental decor pieces that suit your style. At a minimum, you’ll need a mirror, a source of bright lighting and a stool or bench to sit on while you apply makeup or consider your outfit options. If you want to make your minidressing room feel extravagant, add a rug, floor lamp and art in the same theme.

Assemble Your Space
Focus on form and function when assembling your minidressing room. Place your big-ticket items, such as your vanity and mirror in their respective places. Then add any sources of light you’re using to supplement overhead lighting in a location that is conducive to makeup application. Place daily beauty products on your counter for ease of access and stash the rest in drawers.

Jewelry can also double as décor, so don’t be afraid to leave it out in the open. Separate your jewelry by type—necklaces, bracelets, etc.—to make items easy to find and display. Hang necklaces and bracelets on a free standing necklace holder or on wall hooks. Use small bowls for rings and earrings.

Finish your project with any accents you think polish the look. Hang wall art or display picture frames on your vanity. Add small potted plants or figurines on free-floating shelves to embellish your space.


Photos by The White Buffalo Styling Company via Zillow

A minidressing room can be an inexpensive and essential addition to your existing space. It can save you time in the mornings by centralizing the items you use to get ready and serve as a beautiful spot for pampering yourself. Getting ready might be so relaxing you never want to leave your closet.

Oct 162015











In her own words, 4+ months after her Style Lines Analysis:

“Rebecca, I know I told you about the documentary Iris, but you MUST MUST MUST check out the documentary Advanced Style. It’s all about a bunch of geezer women in NY who have become flamboyant dressers! It’s very inspirational… There is also a blog by the same guy! I’m telling you, I’m looking forward to old age now and I wasn’t before!

Thank you for the basics. I couldn’t be doing this without that… I know what I’m looking for now, when I go shopping! I was lost before. Now it’s so much fun being creative! I have to tell you I needed both. Your advice and the inspiration from these creative, artistic women!!

Every day has become a fashion show!! My husband loves it and he is my consultant!



Would you like to show more personality in your look without spending your life shopping? Perhaps the Style Lines Analysis is the boost you need! For under $100 American, you can learn the basics about your best clothing shapes and proportions. Contact me for instructions on how to order.

Jul 092015

Imagine this scenario: you are at a festive gathering, one might even call it a feast; your plate is loaded with delicious food; you turn back to grab one last thing to throw on top of your plate, and the whole thing slips and crashes to the ground! You are standing between turkey and dressing and everything else! Where to even start to clean it up?

I used this metaphor the other day to describe to my husband how I was feeling about my current, for the most part self-imposed, obligations. And it reminded me of my first blog post: Between Turkey and Dressing (November 2006).

Alot has changed in my life and in social media since then. And I am sensing more changes for me, including how I manage this blog. Summer is a great time to reflect and create (even though it may take longer), and that is the need I find myself faced with. As well as a little clean-up. 😉

For my regular readers, I offer this explanation. If you are new here, I hope you will enjoy poking around. Until next post, revision, or iteration, my clients and family are getting the first and best of my creative energy. 

Happy Summer!



Jun 042015

What I mean by the question “are you a builder or an editor?” is

  • Are you the type of person who buys alot of clothes, but needs help knowing what to keep and what to toss (and maybe how to put it together)? If so, you may be a builder.
  • OR

  • Is it easy for you to see what isn’t working and get rid of it, except for the fact that eventually you would be left with nothing to wear? If this is you, you may be an editor.

Lately I have been thinking about the best place for my clients to start in their process of discovering their signature style. One school of thought would be to start with the color analysis, which begins with a consultation in my home studio after which the individualized palette is made in California and shipped to the client. This starting point very much fits the editor, the minimalist, and the individual with a strong sense of what shapes and styles she likes to wear – almost a uniform, so to speak.

Knowing what styles I would recommend is mentioned by about half of people who express interest in image consulting services. Usually these ladies have larger wardrobes. Is it too great a leap to draw the conclusion that a builder may want to start with a closet consultation? My initial closet consultations include a style line analysis.

Obviously (or perhaps not), both of these services necessitate us being in the same space physically. For distance clients, though, just the style line analysis provides 126 gallons (the hero recently discovered in an old, old engineering manual the unit of measurement “butt” – so, a “buttload” is not what you think) of valuable information about the shapes and proportions that work best for you. Now, thanks to a suggestion from a lovely client, I will also include a brief follow-up call. Because, truthfully, the style line analysis is alot of technical information to absorb.

If you could have one free service, which would you choose? Btw, have you heard of eshakti? I know regular readers of this blog have, but I have been surprised how many of my friends and acquaintances irl haven’t. Register now and get $25 OFF your first order. Free Customization of your first order!

Jun 022015

Rule number one states simply that the face should be the focal point of every outfit. That seems obvious. Focal point = the point which the eyes are drawn to. But, have you wondered how that is accomplished?

A primary tool in directing attention to your face is the use of balance points. There are two measurable points that determine how far down the upper body the neckline should go. In addition, the collar or neckline should be at least as wide as the face. For additional information on this topic, I recommend The Triumph of Individual Style, by Carla Mason Mathis and Helen Villa Connor.

Jewelry can also create balance.