Sep 142016

You want me to show you outfit pictures?

You want outfit pictures?

Here’s what’s new:

  1. This site is going to be a personal blog.
  2. I will be rolling out a new business site (soon, I hope).
  3. is for sale! Comment or email if you are interested.
  4. That’s all for now!


Jun 022015

Rule number one states simply that the face should be the focal point of every outfit. That seems obvious. Focal point = the point which the eyes are drawn to. But, have you wondered how that is accomplished?

A primary tool in directing attention to your face is the use of balance points. There are two measurable points that determine how far down the upper body the neckline should go. In addition, the collar or neckline should be at least as wide as the face. For additional information on this topic, I recommend The Triumph of Individual Style, by Carla Mason Mathis and Helen Villa Connor.

Jewelry can also create balance.

Apr 132015

I’ve got that thrifty feeling. Literally. In the last week or so, I have added a little online thrift store (That Thrifty Feeling) to my life. Find it now in Facebook groups:, and Facebook page, and later at That Thrifty Feeling .com.

So, what does this mean for my other endeavors? I will still see clients for personal style coaching, but – truthfully – I haven’t been as busy with that as I would like.  And, while I had been considering  increasing my posting schedule here, I don’t think that’s going to happen. 

So, The Space Between My Peers will continue more or less as it has been: shortish posts containing useful and technical information aimed at people who have to get dressed every day 😉

This week, this will probably be the only post to show up here. In order to perform the technical work of adding and SSL and a cart to  my domain, this site will have to be down for three days. Hope to see you on Facebook!

Feb 052015

Hey, look what I pulled out of August 2008 for a Throwback Thursday post! This may be the moment when I first encountered the idea of personally becoming a Personal Stylist (aka Image Comsultant).

As long as we’re all about making ourselves over, Imogen asks:

I’m interested to know what makes you decide to make a change, take control of your image and do something?

I’m actually very interested, not just because of my job, but also because I’m being interviewed for a magazine next week about this topic. Would you ever consider using an image consultant to help you with your transformation? I’d love any feedback on the following questions – from your points of view:

  • Who benefits most from an image consultant (age, line of work, emotional state, stage of career etc.)
  •  The value of an image makeover

These are some of the questions I’m being asked.

Let’s help her out. 🙂

From the gut, here’s my intial reaction to the idea of using an Image Consultant:  I’m afraid an Image Consultant in Spokane would be … hinky, for lack of a better word.  A Mary Kay lady.  A glorified something salesperson.  A hair stylist trying to beef up her business.

But, realistically, a properly trained Image Consultant could be a better investment than getting your advice from your hairdresser, who is depending on keeping you in services for her income. 

What are your thoughts?

Feb 032015

The foundational first step in most of what I do is something I am calling the Style Line Analysis. Without it, I could look at the clothes in your closet and have little to no idea whether they would suit you are not. With it (and your measurements), I could pretty much do your shopping for you while you did something else. 🙂

So what is a Style Line Analysis? Basically, it covers the big considerations in putting together an outfit: shape and proportion. From a photo or in-person consultation, I identify your silhouette and proportion considerations; then, give you insight into techniques for creating balance and harmony with your clothes.

In my Spokane personal style consultancy, I require the Style Line Analysis before I do a Closet Consultation or any personal shopping; however, it is also available remotely via email. Introductory pricing for this service is only $45 – less than you were going to spend on clothes this month – 😉 why not hit the pause button and get some clarity first? I can only offer 10 of these this month, so email me today to get on the calendar: rebecca (at) between my peers (dot) com.

If the idea of hiring a personal style consultant still seems strange to you, you may appreciate this post Bridgette Raes wrote last year: What You Need to Know Before You Hire a Fashion Stylist.

Nov 202014

For TBT, since we have been talking about the limited wardrobe and laundry, I am revisiting my original formula for calculating how many of an item I need. Currently my focus is on tops (undertops: the t-shirts and blouses that are the first item of clothing covering nakedness and underwear on top); a dress could also fill this category. This post is originally from December 7, 2005.

There are those who think it amusing that I actually have formulas and mathematical equations that I use for shopping. Like the one I use to make sure I have the minimum of certain key pieces. Since I wear a wool sweater just about every day that it is below 40, today (7 degrees) is the day I will stop, count, and calculate whether I have enough. Just in case you weren’t absolutely certain that I was nuts, here’s what I do:

a) Figure out my laundry cycle. What’s the longest number of days something might sit in the hamper before it’s ready to be worn again? As an “empty-nester”, I can get my clothes back into rotation quickly after washing them (no baskets of clean clothes waiting to be folded); OTOH it could take me a week to collect enough of any one color grouping to wash a load. I am going to assume ten days as length of laundry cycle.

b) Calculate the percentage of days that I need to be able to wear this type of item. Well … I guess 100%. That is definitely going to make the math easier! 😉

c) Estimate how many days I can wear something before washing it. (When I had babies, I would estimate how many changes of clothes I needed per day.) Um, yeah. I can’t always wear a top more than once without washing it. OTOH, I don’t typically have to get dressed more than once a day. To be on the safe side, I am going to estimate that I can only wear a top twice one out of every four times.

The math:
Multiply a and b, and then divide by c.
In my example, a = 10 day laundry cycle, b = 100% (1.0), c = 1.25; therefore, I need 8 tops (100% of 10 is 10, divided by 1.25 = 8). If I were using 100% separates, working back down the Grow Like a Tree method I would have 8 tops, 4 layers, and 2 bottoms; a total 14 piece wardrobe. If I make all the pieces coordinate with each other, it is beginning to look suspiciously like a capsule wardrobe!

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May 292014

I’m re-running this, one of my very early posts, because I think the concept is basic and it is foundational to my lifestyle analysis project on which I am embarking. Whether you have a mental pie chart or actually use one of the links here to build one, you need to know how much of your life you spend in which kinds of clothes.

Recently the trend in fashion advice books has been to draw yourself a pie chart, based on some form of lifestyle segmentation, in order to visualize the level of need in each category. What I found for you: a web-site that will do your pie chart for free. You can even choose the colors!  I also found a web-site where you can download applets to make pie charts and graphs for use on your site.

Your assignment, should you choose to accept it, is to build your own pie chart, based on your own lifestyle. Decide first whether you need to split any of my suggested categories into two or more; say, if your office has Casual Friday every week and you want to add a business casual segment. For the value of each segment, enter the number of times per week you dress for that lifestyle. I mean, each time you get dressed (every time the baby spits up or … ). That’s really all there is to it!

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Apr 252014

One of my very first posts, from November 2005:

I just did something scary. I edited my template. And it worked. Then I went to try to figure out how to do something else technical and that didn’t work. Oh well. One can’t know how to do everything.Kohls Department Stores Inc

Here’s something I do know, though, a tip borrowed from the guys. If you are going to buy a blazer this season, and I think you should unless your personality prohibits blazers, your best color option is — drumroll please — your haircolor. Picture it. Your hair and your jacket working together to form a frame to flatter your face, making it the focal point of your outfit.

That’s salty!

Jan 272014

Why is wardrobe trauma so toxic?  Besides creating all kinds of practical problems – tardiness, stress, and mess, to name a few – my wardrobe trauma is inherently toxic because it is my own fault. Nothing makes me grumpier than being mad at myself.

Wardrobe trauma: trying on and rejecting multiple outfits in the process of getting dressed, especially for an event. Worst when the final selection is a compromise.

This weekend I had a minor episode of wardrobe trauma.  Fortunately, I ended up on time to my event, feeling dressed as myself. But not without stress. I had planned to try on my clothes yesterday and just never got around to it; hence, the being mad at myself.

There has to be an easier way.

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I have started the practice of keeping a biffer bag in my closet. Every time I wear something and decide it just isn’t me, into the biffer bag it goes.  My “a-ha!” today: 

Every item rejected during a flurry of wardrobe trauma should be reconsidered altogether!

I realized that the first second garment I decided against has probably seen more wear in my dressing room than out of it. I love it, but it just doesn’t work for my body type, at least not in the time of year that I want to wear it. In hopes of not repeating this scenario, it is going into the bag. After all, I was able to get dressed without it.

More “thinking out loud” to come on overcoming wardrobe trauma. In the meantime, what strategies help you?

Jan 202014

Rule #3:Never wear anything that takes alot of effort to be functional (or makes you walk stupid).

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At our clothing exchange this weekend, a friend reminded me of the above concept. She had heard a similar guideline expressed by a celebrity regarding what is worn on the red carpet:

If you have to tug at it constantly, don’t wear it.

The most common offender I see is the strapless dress. Second is the mini. What ruins functional elegance for the people in your world?