Feb 132017

It’s been a long time coming, but I am finally going to be launching an email newsletter.

Here’s who should sign up for it:

  • local ladies (Spokane WA area)
  • people looking for wardrobe planning systems and structures
  • anyone interested in what is going on in the world of Between My Peers and Signature Style Systems

Give me a week or so to see what I can do with Mailchimp and then look for the Just Between My Peers newsletter in your email inbox!

Do you still use email?

Feb 082017

After investigating a number of capsule-building methodologies, I realized the reason they didn’t make sense to me is because they didn’t explicitly explain how to coordinate the shapes – just the colors. So this framework popped into my head. I am posting it here without alo of instructions for the benefit of some people who will be seeing me in person soon.

If you have questions about how to choose the right pieces for you, I will do my best to answer. Or ask me about a Visual IDentity Analysis.

Download worksheet here: Capsule Worksheet.

Jan 262017

I have had some weird dental adventures. My most recent: at a routine cleaning a couple weeks ago, I was told I have a cavity which would have to be filled. Having read most of Cure Tooth Decay: Remineralize Cavities and Repair Your Teeth Naturally with Good Food, I decided not to schedule the filling, and to give myself a little bit of time to see what I could do.

One of the recommended strategies is to combine cod liver oil with pasture butter. Since I drink bulletproof coffee in the morning, I already get plenty of butter; yesterday my order of Nordic Naturals – Arctic-D CLO, Heart and Brain Health, and Optimal Wellness, Lemon 8 Ounces arrived. I took a teaspoon. This morning, my active cavity is significantly improved. By that I mean brown and sticky to tiny hard black spot. Overnight.

I don’t want to be annoying with all my crazy lifestyle stuff, but I thought you might want to know.

Oct 312016

The parenthetical prologue to this piece: yesterday, in the course of daily life, I encountered a lack, which seemed to me to be worth a trip to the store to have immediately filled. *face palm* Four stores later (add two thrifted cashmere sweaters purchased for $11) I reached the following conclusion.

I should’ve ordered from Amazon prime and taken a nap instead!

Biological rhythms (I was going to say “of life”, but that would be redundant, wouldn’t it? ):

  • Circadian rhythm: the daily. This has been in the air lately, with all the news about sleeping and screens. Discovery your chronotype here: I am a lion; hear me roar! Also, can I say here how much I think we need to revise the policy of seasonal time change?!
  • Ultradian rhythm: within the daily. I first encountered this idea on Aviva Romm’s podcast.
  • Circannual rhythms: yearly. This I had never heard named until I followed the theme above to this other health podcast, where it was mentioned by the author of Whole 30, which I have heard of. Except on closer reflection, this would be what the seasons are and so, here in the great Northwest, the most obvious.

Mulling over these ideas, led me to think about a couple of other rhythms. I have no idea what the scientific names of these are.

  • Weekly. I remember hearing of failed experiments in lengthening the workweek. Not surprised.
  • Monthly. By the way, I am using my keyboard microphone to do this blog. Not going to talk anymore about this category of biology – still chuckling from dictating the initial word and its corresponding punctuation. 😉
  • Multi-annual. I think it’s interesting that the Old Testament prescribes having God’s word read aloud to the congregation once every seven years AND personality development seems to have a seven-year rhythm as well.

So, the parenthetical epilogue to this peek into my mindscape is this: I am going to try to fit some blogging back into life rhythms, in a way that feels healthy and supportive to me.

Rey <3

Sep 142016

You want me to show you outfit pictures?

You want outfit pictures?

Here’s what’s new:

  1. This site is going to be a personal blog.
  2. I will be rolling out a new business site (soon, I hope).
  3. is for sale! Comment or email if you are interested.
  4. That’s all for now!


Feb 292016

Style essence: the “character” of the look.

Some examples of commonly-used essence terms are Classic, Romantic, Natural, and so on. Which style essences resonate with you? There are many style systems out there; my opinion is that they work great, if you find the right one for you as an individual. My training, through Carla Mathis (author of The Triumph of Individual Style: A Guide to Dressing Your Body, Your Beauty, Your Self) and The Style Core, focused on building a look “from scratch”; my work revolves around helping women discover the elements of their Signature Style; my brain is constantly trying to systematize everything.

One well-known style essence system is that of Personal Style Counselors’ John Kitchener, popularized by Andrea Pflaumer in her book Shopping for the Real You: Ten Essential Steps to a Better Wardrobe for Every Woman – Fashionistas, Fashion-phobes and the Over Fifty. Kitchener likens the seven essences he uses to circus animals, with Classic in the middle as ringmaster, keeping the animals somewhat controlled.

Takeaway: the degree of Classic present in your face, body, personality, and/or lifestyle informs the appropriate amount of refinement for your Signature Style.

Btw, I am going to try to start posting little tips like this more regularly, but not promising anything. If you don’t want to miss one, they can be emailed to you. Enter your email in the subscription box in the sidebar.

Dec 222015


  1. Being ENFJ, I am seriously disconnected from my own preferences. While it may seem counterintuitive, it is actually easier for me to help you to access your own aesthetic preferences than it is to identify my own. And that is what I do. 🙂
  2. Not only that, it is much easier to see the patterns in someone else then in yourself. It’s probably a riff on the old “forest for the trees” idea.
  3. Most people have the good sense to, when they understand what will work for them, just go out and buy it! I struggle with that.
  4. Although I look kind of medium, I have at least as many fit issues as anybody. In fact, I’m not sure I have had a client whose proportions were as challenging as mine.
  5. And the biggie: after I help you discover the elements of your signature style, you will have the tools to look like your best self. And you should like your look better than you like the look of my best self.

Sometimes I don’t think I look like what a Stylist is “supposed” to look like. But, more and more, I look like myself.

Oct 262015

It happens all the time: one stylist says anyone can wear neon; another says no one should. Or, from the world of nutrition, one doctor says brown rice is best, another white rice is better, some say either, and others neither. So here are common sense strategies you can use to sort through conflicting expert advice and decide for yourself what to do.

  1. What has been your experience? For example, I don’t need a nutrition expert to tell me not to eat cornbread when I have a physical reaction to it like I did recently.
  2. What does your intuition suggest? Your aesthetic  instincts are a powerful tool. If you have always liked boot cut pants, or whatever else, chances are there is a real reason.
  3. What did our ancestors do? In nutrition, this is the basis for the Paleo movement; in fashion, looks typically go classic because of good design.

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Using any of these strategies is likely to return better, quicker, and more positive results than alternatives like more research or asking all your friends. And there is a fourth, bonus strategy:

  • What does the Bible say? You may, of course, insert an alternate sacred text here. When in doubt, try to remember to use this one. Because experts are often proved wrong, or right, when it’s just too late.
Oct 222015

The hero made an awesome chili the other day, and I just got a craving for cornbread. Since learning this summer about my sister having cancer, I have been trying to actually eat according to my own standards. I am now, as I call it, “off cookies”. Cornbread is pretty far from my typical diet of meat, vegetables, and fat. (But oh-so-yummy with good butter!)

When I went looking online for a recipe, I didn’t have much hope that I would even have the ingredients if I found one. But this one was adaptable. 

What I did:

  • 1 1/2 cups coarsely ground yellow cornmeal
  • 3/4 teaspoon sea salt
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1 medium egg and 1 tiny egg, straight out of the fridge
  • 4 tablespoons salted butter, room temperature
  • 1 1/2 cups plain (homemade, goat milk) yogurt, straight out of the fridge
  • 1/4 cup coconut flour
  • 1/4 cup dextrose

Preheat oven to 400° (convection bake). Butter a pie pan. Combine all ingredients in the Vitamix; pour into pie pan. Bake for around 20 minutes.

While the recipe turned out beautifully, I have to admit to myself that it was obviously not a healthy food for me to eat. I was almost instantly jittery, my face flushed, and I did not have access to the vocabulary I wanted! 🙁

If you want to see more pictures of what I eat, that is pretty much the content of my Instagram.

Oct 192015

By Satinder Haer (Guest blogger via Zillow)

A lavish dressing room can make getting ready in the morning a whole new experience. But who has the space or money for a whole room dedicated to getting ready?

Luckily, you can create a dressing room without buying a bigger house or breaking the bank. Closets often have untapped real estate you can transform into a minidressing room.With a little creativity and organization, you can create a do-it-yourself pampering spot that makes you feel like royalty every morning—right in your own closet.

If you’re craving a little extravagance in your morning routine, use these tips to design your own minidressing room.

Make Space
Vanities are the foundation piece of a traditional dressing room,so you’ll need to carve out space for a vanity or cheaper alternative, such as a desk or dresser. If your home came with walk-in closets and you have free space, you might not have to make additional room. If not, look at your closet and assess:
• What can I get rid of? Free space is often consumed by items you hold on to, but don’t need.
• Should all of these items be in my closet? Consider moving clothing that doesn’t need to be on hangers to a freestanding wardrobe or dresser. Or, box up seasonal clothes and move them to the attic.
• What size desk can I fit in here? Take measurements if it’s going to be a tight spot.

Once you’ve created enough space, find a bedroom vanity, desk or dresser that with counter-top space for storing your jewelry and makeup including drawers for storage.


Photos by The White Buffalo Styling Company via Zillow

Design Your Space
After you’ve acquired the main piece for your dressing room, think about your design. Whether you want the space to have an eclectic theme or a contemporary vibe, you can buy supplemental decor pieces that suit your style. At a minimum, you’ll need a mirror, a source of bright lighting and a stool or bench to sit on while you apply makeup or consider your outfit options. If you want to make your minidressing room feel extravagant, add a rug, floor lamp and art in the same theme.

Assemble Your Space
Focus on form and function when assembling your minidressing room. Place your big-ticket items, such as your vanity and mirror in their respective places. Then add any sources of light you’re using to supplement overhead lighting in a location that is conducive to makeup application. Place daily beauty products on your counter for ease of access and stash the rest in drawers.

Jewelry can also double as décor, so don’t be afraid to leave it out in the open. Separate your jewelry by type—necklaces, bracelets, etc.—to make items easy to find and display. Hang necklaces and bracelets on a free standing necklace holder or on wall hooks. Use small bowls for rings and earrings.

Finish your project with any accents you think polish the look. Hang wall art or display picture frames on your vanity. Add small potted plants or figurines on free-floating shelves to embellish your space.


Photos by The White Buffalo Styling Company via Zillow

A minidressing room can be an inexpensive and essential addition to your existing space. It can save you time in the mornings by centralizing the items you use to get ready and serve as a beautiful spot for pampering yourself. Getting ready might be so relaxing you never want to leave your closet.