Comments on: Making Peace With Your Body Image http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/ from the bottom of the fashion food chain, a conversation about what to wear. Thu, 17 May 2012 07:41:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Rebecca http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39369 Rebecca Thu, 01 May 2008 13:18:39 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39369 Ah, Daisy, just stick around. ;) You bring up a good point, perhaps a future post? There you go again, Vildy, making me think! I can see how, in acquaintance-type situations, it could be true that people just got the impression that one wasn't interested in fun. Unfortunately, my "being left out" situations are more of the variety described by Polly. I would agree with your assessment of what men find attractive. #2 was more or less a quote of what I heard the author say on the radio. But friendliness more accurately describes what I see happening with my daughters' friends. Personally I don't care so much about being included by men, and being left out by ladies is probably a vicious circle. I'm sure hurt feelings don't translate to an open and friendly visage. I'll have to find the post where we were talking about dressing fun for family gatherings! :) Ah, Daisy, just stick around. ;) You bring up a good point, perhaps a future post?

There you go again, Vildy, making me think! I can see how, in acquaintance-type situations, it could be true that people just got the impression that one wasn’t interested in fun. Unfortunately, my “being left out” situations are more of the variety described by Polly.

I would agree with your assessment of what men find attractive. #2 was more or less a quote of what I heard the author say on the radio. But friendliness more accurately describes what I see happening with my daughters’ friends.

Personally I don’t care so much about being included by men, and being left out by ladies is probably a vicious circle. I’m sure hurt feelings don’t translate to an open and friendly visage. I’ll have to find the post where we were talking about dressing fun for family gatherings! :)

]]> By: Sheri http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39368 Sheri Thu, 01 May 2008 13:17:34 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39368 For both me and my dh, the biggest mood disrupter is being misunderstood. Not surprisingly, we are both "explainers" (and, truth be told, probably egghead/know-it-alls!). I think I am sometimes actually relieved to be left out . . . For both me and my dh, the biggest mood disrupter is being misunderstood. Not surprisingly, we are both “explainers” (and, truth be told, probably egghead/know-it-alls!). I think I am sometimes actually relieved to be left out . . .

]]> By: Vildy http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39367 Vildy Thu, 01 May 2008 12:51:28 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39367 I used to feel very resentful that in the community work that I did people always seemed to be coming to me with problems - even stopping me on the street for advice - but when it came time to go off and have fun, no. If there were some kind of community event people would cluster around others but not me, except for one elderly gentleman who was an actual friend. Finally, I decided to present a fuller picture of myself and emphasize the personal/personable more over the pragmatic. I used to feel very resentful that in the community work that I did people always seemed to be coming to me with problems - even stopping me on the street for advice - but when it came time to go off and have fun, no. If there were some kind of community event people would cluster around others but not me, except for one elderly gentleman who was an actual friend. Finally, I decided to present a fuller picture of myself and emphasize the personal/personable more over the pragmatic.

]]> By: Vildy http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39366 Vildy Thu, 01 May 2008 12:46:56 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39366 Not wanting to be controversial but in my own life I have noticed that when I examine situations where I am left out of fun it is because I have been presenting myself as too one-sided and intense. I think men are actually the most attracted by friendliness. I've heard they misinterpret this as availability but either way. :) I guess it's the flip side of the left out equatiion, huh. Not wanting to be controversial but in my own life I have noticed that when I examine situations where I am left out of fun it is because I have been presenting myself as too one-sided and intense.

I think men are actually the most attracted by friendliness. I’ve heard they misinterpret this as availability but either way. :) I guess it’s the flip side of the left out equatiion, huh.

]]> By: Polly http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39364 Polly Thu, 01 May 2008 12:11:08 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39364 I'm with you. If I find out that my sisters -in-law and mil had a girls' day out in the city and I wasn't included, I'm sad. But to be fair, I still have younger children at home and am more tied down. But still. They could ask! I’m with you. If I find out that my sisters -in-law and mil had a girls’ day out in the city and I wasn’t included, I’m sad. But to be fair, I still have younger children at home and am more tied down. But still. They could ask!

]]> By: Jennifer http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39358 Jennifer Thu, 01 May 2008 04:34:57 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39358 I quite agree. Feeling ignored/not wanted always makes me feel horrible. I quite agree. Feeling ignored/not wanted always makes me feel horrible.

]]> By: Daisy http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39343 Daisy Thu, 01 May 2008 02:20:38 +0000 http://betweenmypeers.com/2008/04/30/making-peace-with-your-body-image/#comment-39343 Regarding #2: What's with today's size-acceptance movement? Hate on the skinnies to make the not-so-skinnies feel good about themselves? I'm new to your blog (discovered it yesterday, actually) and was so excited to find that I was not the only one into modesty, but I now find myself disappointed. I'm not going to say you're totally anti-slender, out-to-get-the-size-0's, as that would be entirely unfair, but #2 just reminds me of the general acceptance movement, and it's "Everyone deserves to be treated fairly and with acceptance - everyone but the Christians." mentality, and leaves me fairly uneasy. Daisy, 15 size 0, and proud Christ-follower Regarding #2:

What’s with today’s size-acceptance movement? Hate on the skinnies to make the not-so-skinnies feel good about themselves? I’m new to your blog (discovered it yesterday, actually) and was so excited to find that I was not the only one into modesty, but I now find myself disappointed.

I’m not going to say you’re totally anti-slender, out-to-get-the-size-0’s, as that would be entirely unfair, but #2 just reminds me of the general acceptance movement, and it’s “Everyone deserves to be treated fairly and with acceptance - everyone but the Christians.” mentality, and leaves me fairly uneasy.

Daisy, 15
size 0, and proud Christ-follower

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