Dating, Courting, or Something Else?
What do you think, can a young person be a dating disciple?
Here are some resources to check out:
“Should Christians Date?”, by Adam Holz.
Biblical courtship - Wikipedia.
From this great, but lengthy, article at Focus on the Family. Biblical Dating: An Introduction, by Scott Croft:
1. Modern dating seems to be about “finding” the right person for me (as my friend Michael Lawrence has written on this site); biblical dating is more about “being” the right person to serve my future spouse’s needs and be a God-glorifying husband or wife.
2. In modern dating, intimacy precedes commitment. In biblical dating, commitment precedes intimacy.
3. The modern dating approach tells us that the way to figure out whether I want to marry someone is to act like we are married. If we like it, we make it official. If we don’t, then we go through something emotionally — and probably physically — like a divorce. In biblical dating, Scripture guides us as to how to find a mate and marry, and the Bible teaches, among other things, that we should act in such a way so as not to imply a marriage-level commitment until that commitment exists before the Lord.
Now here’s something you don’t see everyday - a student devotional on dating, from Awana.
What are your thoughts?
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Pantihose, Skivvies, and Slips, Oh My!
Far and away, googling pantihose questions is the number one way new readers find their way here, with slip queries next in line. In this post from last April, Pantihose Do You Wear Them?, and especially in the comments, readers and I discuss whether or not they are a necessary evil. This time of year, most of us are wearing tights for warmth.
To determine hosiery color “from scratch”, I use the length-balancing principles I explained here, in How to Wear a High Waisted Skirt. For abundant specifics on this topic, and more, Ask Alison.
Skivvies, aka thermals or long underwear, are a winter necessity here in the mountains of the Great Northwest, much warmer and more comfortable than nylon stockings. I wear these daily. Under jeans, of course.
With skirts and dresses, I dodge the need for a slip with an old-school style-enhancing feature: LINING. Frankly, and I own this as a strong personal preference, slips just don’t work well. How many otherwise well-dressed women ruin their entire look with a slipping slip? If it doesn’t have a lining, I just wait to wear it until the weather’s warm enough to go stocking-free.
Slightly related, Jenn and I were talking in comments over here about socks (context: not looking dated). What kind do you wear?
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What to Wear to the Office Christmas (Cocktail) Party
Or What to Wear When the Invitation Specifies “Cocktail”.
The following definition was given by my husband’s very gracious office manager. To my delight, NOT A SINGLE PERSON showed up dressed in an appalling fashion. Several displayed stellar taste and creativity.
I have had a number of people ask me what Cocktail dress means. My intent by choosing this description is to merely say dress up more than you would for work. It certainly wasn’t intended to mean rent a tux. It would be no different than any of our other Holiday parties or if you were going to a nice restaurant (not a tavern) for dinner. Some guys may wear suits and others nice slacks and a good shirt. The ladies usually dress up a bit more, because they don’t get to wear their fancy outfits very often.
Flip through the following for more ideas:
- The Fashion Faction - Holiday Parties
- La Petite Chou - Christmas Party Outfit
- What I would have worn if I hadn’t worn this.
Realizing this post is a couple of weeks late, tell me - what did you wear to yours?
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Steps to Successfully Wearing Red & Black
As many of you know, I do not have a TV. Consequently, I thank Wendy that I even knew about Mrs Bush’s Christmas dress incident.
With the resurrection of the red/black combo this holiday season: what are some easy guidelines to doing it well?:
- Choose your red. Carefully.
- Major on the majors.
- Add another neutral.
- Your best metallic.
- White, ivory, or pearls.
- For business, charcoal gray or camel.
Most of us are well-acquainted with the concept of cool versus warm, or blue red versus orange red. Although red itself is a medium value color, defined as bright, it is possible to also adjust a little to the white as in my red silk skirt or a little to the dark, without going burgundy.
Which color is better on you, black or red? It stands to reason you would want more of that color in your ensemble. See How a Blonde Can Wear All Black and How to Wear Any Color for more thoughts on color combining and placement.
For many of us, Mrs. Bush’s three guests included, red and black is a tough color combination to wear. Adding another neutral has a softening effect.
Some to try:
Then there is the matter of personality. Do you even like red and black together?
I admit, I don’t. But then I somehow still crave it in December.
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Great Idea: Pooling Resources
Amy from MotherLoad: The MomAdvice Blog, and host of this week’s Festival of Frugality, offers this creative solution to the Frugal Holiday Finery dilemma:
I have worked out a deal with a girlfriend where we trade clothes for all of our special occasions. Usually she has the shoes, purse, and shawl and I supply a knock-out dress that I have found thrifting. Pooling our resources has saved me from spending tons of money for these one night occasions!
Obviously, you couldn’t do this with just anybody; for size, shape, coloring, and personality considerations. Nevertheless, the idea has potential.
Tell me, do you have anyone in your life that you could approach about such an arrangement?
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Frugal Holiday Finery
Bloglines subscribers: you will want to pop over and view the picture. There’s something new and different about it. He hee.
Thinking it’s somewhat of an insult to the readers who have been here since the beginning, sometimes I’m afraid to post an idea I’ve previously blogged. A foolish notion, most visitors come via Google. Thanks to this post at Copyblogger, I’m encouraged to repeat the things which bear repeating.
Like these three ways to dress up for Christmas for almost nothing:
- Borrow: Last year I wore a long silver skirt with this top, one I picked up for $1 (new with the tags still on) at a thrift store. It has since gone to several upscale events with other ladies. Surely your friends would rather lend you their little-used formal and cocktail clothing than to have it collecting dust.
- Thrift: If I must buy a dress, for any occasion, I never pay “real money” for it. Just today, I saw literally dozens of really great dresses, each only $1 American, at my favorite thrift store. Obviously, not every area offers those kind of deals; just consider ebay your online thrift store.
- Separates: Many special occasion separates are downright frumpy! Some classics that I have mixed and matched with success include: metallic t-shirts such as the one pictured, or ones with sequins; velvet jeans, skirts, or blazers; fuller skirts, such as the red silk pictured or the silver one mentioned earlier; a black straight or pencil skirt, or wide-legged pants; silk or sateen blouses and blazers. A black tee-shirt and black skirt, under dimly lit conditions, easily fills in for a black dress.
One final thought: Set against an all-black outfit, even your pre-schoolers dress-up jewelry can look very festive. Why not try it?
(More on this topic at Frugal Mom Has a Social Life.)
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The Perfect Coat for a Type A Figure
Isn’t this the cutest coat? Perfect for a Type A figure.
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This Is Really Weird
Yeah. Hi! Our computer is doing unspeakably strange things. Last night we patched it with a stick of “bubble gum” (RAM) and now I am here through a “back door”. I cannot access Internet Explorer at all. The good news is we WILL be getting a new computer.
Funny. My last Riveting Question was “is it time to take a break from blogging?”
Hmmm …
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Currently Experiencing Technical Difficulties
On the one hand, and I’m pretty sure this rates abundant sympathy from my internet friends, my computer has “interrupted” its functioning close to a dozen times in the last 16 or so hours. Posting such, I hope to avoid having any of you worrying if I drop off the face of the planet for a day or two. Unlikely that will really happen, though. If this stone-age, ME-driven, desk-top beastie dies; I plan on asking a friend to build me a lap-top. Maybe.
On the other hand, I tried my daughter’s three barrel waver and it just made my hair frizzy. Next up, the small curling iron.
Update:
Today, I am simply unable to bring up the “create a new post” page. Sorry!
If I have a working, blogging computer I plan to do a Friday Fashion Lab this week. Topic: pant-leg silhouettes.
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My Purse Now Available Online!
Finally, the purse I got for my birthday is available at Wilsons Leather online. For only $69!
Although it isn’t pictured, I want to let you know that the navy is actually a very contemporary, very glamorous cyan. The brown, which I got, is only brown in bright sunlight. Most winter days it’s a delectable deep plum.
Would if I mind if we had the same bag? Feel free. I did have it first.
